Recently, a woman named Eve caught the attention of over 25 million people after she made this video talking about the importance of having sex on the first date:
In her video, she says, "OK, I am going to tell you guys why it is crucial, important to have sex on the first date. So, hear me out: I recently was seeing this guy — we were taking things slow. We probably had 10 to 15 dates before actually having sex. Before we had sex, I asked him, 'So, what do you like during sex, do you have any kinks?' ... He was like, 'No, I don't really have any kinks, nothing crazy.'"
She continues, "So we go to have sex, at first it was fine. His dick was fine, he was fine, and then he starts to dirty talk. Now, I know what you're thinking. 'Dirty talk is sexy, dirty talk is hot.' I agree, completely. But this man did not do your typical — he could have said anything other than what he said. Let me reenact this for you. I am him: 'Yeah, yeah, you want me to get you pregnant? You want me to put a baby in you so everyone knows you're mine?!'"
"Now, I don't kink shame, but what the fuck. ... First time having sex, I ask you about kinks — you didn't think you should tell me that? You don't spring that on somebody. ... Also, then he was like talk back, talk back, say something. What the fuck do you want me to say? 'Yeah, you wanna pay for my abortion? Yeah, you wanna be a single dad?' ... Months of getting to know this guy, getting deep with him, getting personal with him — out the door. Have sex on the first date, you heard it here first..."
BuzzFeed spoke with Eve to get more of her thoughts about this topic.
Eve said the main reason she thinks having sex early on may be beneficial is because it could help you determine if that person is sexually compatible with you. "Make sure there isn’t anything major that you aren’t okay with. But also, keep in mind that sometimes sex is awkward at first. Sex gets better the closer you and your partner become and with good communication," she added.
Eve also clarified that while she seems very passionate about having sex on the first date in her video, she really believes people should do whatever they're comfortable doing sexually — and at their own pace. "There’s no right way. And I actually don’t feel that strongly about having sex early on in dating. I was making a joke and being dramatic," she said.
Even though Eve was making the video in a joking manner, people in the comments understood the point she was trying to make:
The gist of what she is saying is: If you don't like surprises in the bedroom, you might as well do the deed first to see if it's what you like...
...But also, do whatever YOU feel comfortable doing and don't ever let anyone on social media decide what is best for YOUR sex life. There is no right or wrong way to have sex — just do it safely and consensually!