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Jay Simpson: Upon further review, I'll pass on coaching my kids

Feb. 18—As much as I would like to be the primary coach and trainer for my sons, I realize it's probably better if I don't — especially at this point in their lives.

My passion for basketball is deep, and I would never want that to ruin the bonds I have created with my boys.

I want them to be able enjoy the process along with the highs and lows it comes with and be able to use me for any advice they need.

I hear too many stories about fathers coaching their own sons and ruining their relationship because Dad doesn't know how to control his emotions.

I watched an interview with Celtics star Jayson Tatum as he talked about how he was coached by his father growing up. He knows his dad only wanted the best for him but went about it completely wrong.

He said his dad would absolutely humiliate him and embarrass him in front of others whenever he didn't perform well enough or go hard enough. That's exactly what I want to prevent. I doubt I would ever be that extreme, but just the thought of it makes me cringe.

A lot of the time, fathers who are coaches are just that 24/7. They tend to not have any type of relationship with their children outside of the sport — also not a route I want to go.

I want to be the dad who does everything and introduces them to new things.

Tatum said the only things he remembers doing with his dad was going to the gym and the barbershop. That speaks volumes.

There's more to life than sports, and kids deserve to see it all. I want to take them on trips and do adventurous activities like camping, hunting and things that were never done with me.

Of course, I would like for my children to be successful in sports, but I care about them being better people a lot more. That's more important to me, and I feel like if they're good, genuine young men, everything else will fall into place.