Jay Simpson: Sometimes, you have to get on their bad side

Jan. 10—In coaching young men, especially young Black men, it's deeper than basketball.

Yes, you're a coach. But sometimes you may have to be a parent, a counselor, a chauffeur, a tutor and a mentor. But the most important thing is that you are a leader.

These kids have been through a lot, and they can spot when something or someone is bogus just as good as we can.

A lot of kids don't have a person they can depend on no matter what, and as a coach, sometimes you have to be that person.

The best coaches not only prepare their players for the opposition but also prep them for life.

You may have to get on their bad side for a little bit for them to see that you're serious and you care, and that's perfectly fine, because I guarantee they will get over it and appreciate it.

What they won't respect is a pushover, someone who allows them to take shortcuts or the easy way out. That's not going to cut it.

The best coaches I've had from a child up to college are still very active in my life. I'm 30 years old, and to this day, there are a few people I know I can depend on no matter what.

Relationships matter. As a coach, you create the best ones when you lead.

I think young men respond better to people they know want to see them succeed and who don't mind being on their bad side to make sure it happens.

We have to show them how to be accountable early so they don't grow up to be men who just make excuses.