Daring Your Partner To Give You A Lap Dance Is The Foreplay You’ve Been Missing
The bedroom is one of the few places in a relationship where playing games is encouraged. So take advantage of it. If you and your S.O. have been stuck in a rut, or you're in a new fling and want to know more about your partner, head to the bedroom for a round (or three!) of truth or dare.
Remember: "Building intimacy with your partner should continue throughout the relationship," says Rachel Needle, PsyD, and co-director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. She encourages her clients to turn to games like truth or dare when they want to turn up the heat and reconnect.
Since you're getting to know them more by asking prepared serious, deep, and exciting questions, and experimenting with different types of touching or kissing, Needle says a game of truth or dare is bound to help you master both sexual and emotional intimacy.
The key is asking the right questions (!!). Pro tip: Make sure to check in with your partner while playing to make sure they're feeling safe and comfortable answering the question or doing whatever the dare requires. Consent is a must, so hold space for your partner to back out if they want to.
Meet the expert: Rachel Needle, PsyD is the co-director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes.
Not sure where to start? WH has got you covered. When asking for truths, Needle recommends focusing on asking something that would spark vulnerability in your partner. (Think: "What are you most afraid of?") Then, use the dare to build excitement, make each other laugh, and try something new.
These questions should challenge you both to be more open and genuine with one another (while getting a little heated too!). Ahead, a list of 100 truth or dare questions to get you started.
Truths:
What's one nonsexual thing that turns you on?
What is your most treasured memory?
What is one question you don’t want me to ask you?
Which item of clothing do you think I look sexiest in?
Where do you think our most romantic kiss took place? Tell me everything you remember about it.
What are you most afraid of?
What is your biggest insecurity about our relationship?
What were your exact thoughts when we decided to DTR?
What's your favorite thing for us to do together?
What kind of food turns you on?
What are two of your guilty pleasures?
Have you ever made a sex tape?
What did you think of our first date?
What's a quality you want to change about yourself?
Do you like telling me what to do in bed, or do you prefer to be told what to do?
What's your favorite kind of foreplay?
How have I changed since we got together?
What do you love about me most?
What's my weirdest habit?
Are you where you thought you’d be 5 years ago?
When did you first know you were attracted to me?
When was the last time you cried?
What was our funniest sex mishap?
What's something you're looking forward to in our relationship?
What's the best way to turn you on?
Do you have a hidden talent I don't know about?
What's your favorite sext you've received from me?
What's a place you fantasize about us having sex?
How long did it take you to realize you wanted to be with me?
If we were never going to see each other again, what would you say to me right now?
If you could relive one moment from our relationship, which would it be?
What’s something I do that brings you happiness?
Name something that reminds you of me when I’m not around.
Name an activity we’ve never done together that you’d like to try.
What’s something we haven’t done in a while that you’d like to do again.
What makes you feel sensual?
What’s your favorite compliment to receive?
When was the last time you lied?
Tell me something about your childhood that I don’t know about.
Have you ever had a wet dream about me?
What’s the strangest place you’ve ever had sex?
What’s your go-to pick up line?
What’s something you’ve grown to appreciate in our relationship?
What’s your idea of a perfect couples getaway for us?
Would you ever get a matching tattoo with me?
If our romance story was a movie, who would you want to play us?
Do you have any secret kinks?
What’s been your least favorite date of ours so far?
If we got married tomorrow, what song would you choose for our first dance?
Who's your celebrity crush?
Dares:
Dance to one song for me.
Tell me something you've never told anyone before.
Imitate me doing something you think is cute.
Passionately kiss me.
Describe the most exciting dream you've had about me.
Play me a song you’d like to hear during sex.
Give me a massage anywhere you'd like.
Text me a sexy photo from a different room.
Draw your version of a perfect date night.
Put your favorite topping (peanut butter, chocolate sauce, whipped cream, etc.) on your favorite parts of my body. Then, lick it off.
Show me a sex toy you want us to use.
Tell me something right now that you've been fantasizing about.
Describe your ideal role-play scenario to me.
Give me your best lap dance.
Take off my top using only one hand.
Tell me what you loved most about the last time we had sex.
Without touching me, do something you think will turn me on.
Talk in your hottest accent.
Take a shower with me and wash my body, making sure to hit all the good spots.
Pretend I’m a stranger you met at a club. Now, try to pick me up and persuade me to come home with you.
In detail, describe your first time having sex.
Find a way to give me goosebumps. But you can only use your fingers.
Tell me what was going through your mind the first time we had sex.
Eat a piece of fruit in the sexiest way possible.
Act out the move that I do during sex that you absolutely love.
Spell out a message on my body with your tongue. Make it short and sensual.
Leave me a voice note with all the things you want to do to me tonight on it.
Sing me the sexiest song that pops into your mind.
Without speaking, demonstrate your favorite position we've done.
Take off one article of my clothing using only your teeth.
Blindfold me and then touch me with a random object until I guess what it is.
Pick your favorite sexy scene from a film and watch it with me.
Pick two articles of clothing you’d like me to take off.
Try to undo my pants with just your mouth. You have two minutes.
Put a blindfold on and guess which part of my body you’re kissing.
Do something with me that you’ve been wanting to do since we started playing.
In detail, describe what I look like when I orgasm.
Pick one item you’d want to restrain me with next time we have sex.
Write me a love letter. I can’t read it until the game is over.
You have 60 seconds: try to turn me on using just your mouth.
Show me a picture of someone we know that you’d like to bring in for a threesome.
Go pick out your favorite set of lingerie that I own.
Pick a steamy movie for us to watch tonight.
Pick the first five songs of our joint sex playlist.
Pick out a new sex position that you’ve been wanting to try.
Kiss a part of my body that you think needs extra TLC.
Grab an ice cube and drag it anywhere along my body until it melts.
Show me a sexy photo of yourself that I’ve never seen before.
In detail, describe how you like to masturbate.
Be my photographer and help me take a sexy photo that only you can keep.
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