'The Bachelor' Arie Luyendyk, Jr. shares his wisdom on modern dating

Natia Gvazava

The current season of "The Bachelor" is winding down. Two-time Indy 500 winner Arie Luyendyk, Jr. has narrowed the playing field to his final three women, and the coming weeks will see him choose a life partner. For 22 seasons, we've tuned in to watch women vie for an eligible bachelor's attention. We've swooned over their romantic getaways, cringed at their awkward exchanges and relished their drama. "The Bachelor" most certainly makes great television but that doesn't mean that Arie doesn't experience the same fears and insecurities like the rest of us, except with dozens of cameras pointing at him. The former racer, who is now a successful real estate broker, stopped by BUILD Series NYC to share some of these nerve-racking experiences everyone can relate to when it came to picking his potential life partner for the second time on national television.

Despite waiting 6 years for Arie to be the next Bachelor after America had fallen in love with him from his previous season with Emily Maynard, Luyendyk was actually terrified when the season started. The next bachelor was rumored to be Peter Kraus, and Luyendyk feared he would disappoint both fans and the women on the show if he couldn't live up to Kraus' looks or reputation.

"For me, it was very nerve-racking, it was intimidating," he said. "I think some people expected a different bachelor, so I felt a little insecure in that way, but as the evening rolled through I got more and more comfortable."

The best part of the show was when Arie got totally real and answered questions that many of the show's audience were dying to know. Does this experience really work? Could he see why people are inclined to be the next Bachelor or Bachelorette?

"It can work and you definitely fall in love," he explained of the experience. "I think it's navigating the post-show stuff afterward, and keeping a good head on your shoulders and staying humble. Enjoy the ride but also know that there is real-world stuff to take care of when you get home."

Arie also got candid on his close relationship with Sean and Catherine, who actually encouraged him to be on the show, and gushed over how they are a real example of a couple who made it work post glitz and glamour of the show.

"The Bachelor" airs on Mondays at 8 p.m. EST on ABC.

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