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Justin Bourne is the son of New York Islanders great Bob Bourne and a former minor league player who has transitioned into one of the more interesting hockey columnists on the Web.

His opinion piece for USA Today called "It's time to end the use of gay slurs in hockey" is going to get some deserved attention.

Bourne discusses how he contributed to "hockey's culture of homophobia and prejudice against gays" as a player; the lack of any openly gay male players in professional hockey; and concludes that "it's time to acknowledge we've been unfair to the gay community, that the culture of our sport can be misogynistic, homophobic and cruel."

From USA Today:

There hasn't been progress on this issue for years. When I ran the idea for this column by my uncle, a sportswriter and editor, he mentioned a piece he wrote 20 years ago after the general manager of a major junior hockey team in Canada said something like: "We don't have any weak-wristed players in this locker room."

Twenty years later, this attitude has yet to be shucked from hockey. We can't wait another two decades ignoring the small but consistent strides of progress that the world outside sport is making.

We need to make a change now, because kids who move away from home to play junior hockey at 16 or 17 are still impressionable. If they don't encounter a good role model, the seeds are sown for a person, who after trying to fit in, thinks it's OK to drink, treat women a certain way and use homosexuality as a punchlines.

Does hockey have a problem with intolerance, and is it time to take a stand?

First off, let's cut to the chase: Questioning another man's masculinity is a societal norm for provocation. The issue is whether you can separate the more benign ridicule (see the Mike Milbury "Pansification" flap from last season) from the defamatory insults that keep gay players trembling in the closet or out of professional sports altogether.

(And yes, let's remember that this is a pro sports issue as much as a hockey one.)

Bourne regrets his contribution to the homophobia in hockey, but it's a problem that goes beyond the locker room. Please recall the controversy at Madison Square Garden last spring, where the anti-gay environment at New York Rangers game forced protests from gay hockey fans. But again, there are varying degrees of offensive behavior. It's one thing to chant that "Team X Sucks" from the stands; it's another to bellow a gay slur at an opposing player from the cheap seats.

That isn't to say there isn't a closed-minded, homophobic culture in hockey, because there is. Horrific stories like Theo Fleury's molestation as a junior player likely cloud the issue further, as the intolerant all too easily see crimes like molestation as "symptoms" of homosexual behavior, disgusting and misguided as that is.

How do you change that mindset? With bravery and patience.

Bravery, in the hope that, as Bourne suggests, a few gay players decide to come out publicly, suffer the slurs and show the hockey world that a 90-point center is still a 90-point center no matter to whom he comes home to every night. The moment that taboo is broken, there's no going back. It'll just take an extraordinary individual to break it.

Patience, in the hope that as the generations change in professional sports, so will the levels of acceptance. It's happened throughout history with race; sexual preference is a slower process, complicated by religious dogma and political discourse.

At first, the timing of this column seemed a tad odd: The rest of the hockey world is talking about how to remove reckless, violent hits from the game, and Bourne's writing about gay rights. That's until you realize that both issues center on fundamental changes to the philosophy of those who play, manage and work within the game.

We've always said that legislating fighting or hits to the head out of hockey will only do so much; that it will take future generations of players removing them through natural selection for the culture to change. Taking a stand against bigotry of gays in hockey is noble, but this is a generational issue; patience is as much a virtue as tolerance in this fight.

Look, Bourne's heart is in the right place. But it's going to take more than just "we are the change we've been waiting for" declarations to move hockey culture past ignorant intolerance. The one thought we couldn't escape in reading Bourne's piece: Would he have written it while he was an active player? To that, we quote his final words in the column: "It's better late than never."

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  1. jesse d
    1. Posted by jesse d Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:24 pm EST

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    coming from someone who despises both of them, this is not the time to make jokes about bettman and crosby. Carry on.
  2. M
    2. Posted by M Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:26 pm EST

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    I consider myself a liberal person, but this article is too serious for smack talking hockey banter. I watch sports to escape from the reality of our crappy society. And that is no offense to anyone who struggles to be free to express their personal life. I think people say things more for shock value than actually realize what they have said is offensive to another person's existence. I have been confronted on this blog several times with prejudice comments regarding the ethnic make up and naturally occurring liberal attitudes often found in a large city. In general It is just a shame there are so many small minded people in the world.
  3. Pensfan71
    3. Posted by Pensfan71 Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:28 pm EST

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    There are so many great slapshot quotes to go along with this story but Im not gonna go there...but this seems to be a sad truth in the world of not just hockey but professional sports in general.. just ask Larry Johnson or Hardaway. Who cares what people do in their personal lives.
  4. habs1rule
    4. Posted by habs1rule Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:32 pm EST

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    Great article to post this. Simon Gagne of the Flyers out 6-8weeks, having two hernia surgeries as well as having his rectus abdominus muscles repaired...(Look it up if you dont believe me). Guess he wont be playing Anything for awhile.
  5. zambonirider
    5. Posted by zambonirider Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:33 pm EST

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    The fact that you consider this an important enough issue to write a mature and dignified column about it is a step in the right direction for sure. I don't necessarily see it as a hockey-only problem, either. I can't think of any openly-gay big-four pro athletes that were out or have come out while they were still playing. Unfortunately, all sports culture (or culture in general) has to mature for the necessary changes to happen.
  6. campbellmcdonald32
    6. Posted by campbellmcdonald32 Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:35 pm EST

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    I'll tell you what's sad: fining Larry Johnson several hundred thousands of dollars for saying WORDS. Same thing applies to Sean Avery.
    Words. G0d d@mmit. Words. They are meaningless unless we the listener attach meaning to them and given them significance. By themselves, they are noises that come from our throats.
    If you let words hurt you, you are a spineless, weak loser.
    Gays will get our respect when they come out of the closet and say, "I'm gay. I'm the latest Hall of Ffame member of theh Edmonton Oilers. And I'm proud of it."
    Maybe that's when things will change.
    Ordering me not to substitute "gay" when I mean "lame" provokes just one reaction: "Don't be such a f@g."
  7. William
    7. Posted by William Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:36 pm EST

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    Bravery, in the hope that, as Bourne suggests, a few gay players decide to come out publicly, suffer the slurs and show the hockey world that a 90-point center is still a 90-point center no matter to whom he comes home to every night. The moment that taboo is broken, there's no going back. It'll just take an extraordinary individual to break it.
    I'll still hate Sidney Crosby when he comes out of the closet. And it's not because he's gay. It's because he sucks. No pun intended.
  8. habs1rule
    8. Posted by habs1rule Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:38 pm EST

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    Great article, Now Sidney can finally come out of that closet, in his basement... And men saying "My Vagina hurts" are morons too!! Then again, the men that say that are probably correct.
  9. Sara
    9. Posted by Sara Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:41 pm EST

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    Just my .02 but I think the biggest hurdle for gay players isn't going to be gaining tolerance and acceptance from other players, but trying to gain tolerance and acceptance from the fans.
  10. Benjamin
    10. Posted by Benjamin Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:42 pm EST

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    I haven't really noticed any anti-gay issues in hockey. No more than in the NFL, certainly. Man, I sure do want to make a Crosby joke, though...
  11. Buddha
    11. Posted by Buddha Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:43 pm EST

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    @M - The problem is that sports is only an escape from reality for so long. And we all escape into sports, believe me. But when the game ends, the players we watch on the ice or on the field are real people. If we cannot accept them for who they are, then we have no right to cheer for, or boo, them while they are on the field.
    I know from reading your post that you agree that it is time for the views to change. But this is exactly the place this needs to be discussed. On Puck Daddy, SBN, Kukla's Korner, and all of the other places hockey fans and sports fans go to discuss their sport.
    While Wysh is correct in saying that it will take a generational culture change, the fans need to get over the desire to label things or players as "gay," implying that gay is bad. If someone yelled out to any random player, or told a commenter on here that they were the n-word or some other racial slur, they would get jumped and hopefully removed from the board. But those same people who would jump you for that comment will call you gay because you think fighting should be banned or because you may be a fan of a certain team.
    It takes change not only in the locker room, but in the stands, and in places such as this. If we don't discuss it here, then where?
  12. Buddha
    12. Posted by Buddha Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:46 pm EST

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    @M - See comment from "campbellmcdonald32" to see why this needs to be discussed here.
    Yes, campbellmcdonald32, you are the problem. Try subbing in your name next time you need a substitute for "lame." Or a racial slur. Words are how people communicate, and society assigns meanings to them, regardless of if you intend harm or not. Calling someone the n-word is considered assault in several states. Just words though, right?
  13. M
    13. Posted by M Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:47 pm EST

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    @habs1, we are used to it and not that I believe he and Briere are soft players but at some point the constant injuries are tiring for a fan to endure. What can I get from the Canadians for a couple of often hurt french players, please.
  14. Matt
    14. Posted by Matt Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:48 pm EST

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    Buddha, you wrote everything that I just logged in to write. Sports are a subset of reality. They're entertainment, but not film or television.
    Besides that, though, I don't believe that hockey players, as a group, are necessarily intolerant. It's just that the culture has bred this recipe for machismo and "alpha male" displays. In all my years of playing, yes, there were gay slurs, questions of masculinity, and everything else. But if one of our teammates was actually gay, and came out to the team? We all would have supported him, no question.
    Unfortunately, this is not how things really are. I just found out that one of my fraternity brothers was gay from another brother, who was closer to him than I was. Turns out he only came out to his close friends, and not all of us. I wonder how much of that could be attributed to the "typical" young adult male culture.
  15. chungsotheby
    15. Posted by chungsotheby Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:52 pm EST

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    @cambellmcdonal32
    That last crack was a bit of rumormongering, but it has been out there for a while, along with the stories of a former Maple Leaf and a certain non-sloppy firster enjoying the use of a strap-on with his former supermodel fling.
    Onto the issue at hand. Although bigotry, intolerance and homophobia are pretty present in all professional sports, I believe that hockey is not any worse, or better, for that matter than any others. The one thing about hockey is that personal toughness and heart are much more valued than in other sports, and these tend to overshadow any other personal prejudices in the locker room. Having played with a few teammates who had the unfair stigma of having been molested by their coaches, they were never treated differently as long as they did their job on the ice. Also, though a little off-topic, in most cases growing up there are always talented girls playing along with the boys, thus kind of forcing tolerance onto players. The culture of hockey is very results-oriented, and the cliche "actions speak louder than words" really applies.
  16. NostraChronus
    16. Posted by NostraChronus Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:56 pm EST

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    what about fat people? Do they not have feelings? Avery can insult fat people and that's okay? Simple fact - get thicker skin, because with so much competition in the fundraising world, competing agendas must highlight their oppression or perceived oppression in order to balance their budgets.
  17. big audio
    17. Posted by big audio Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:56 pm EST

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    who knew Bobby Bourne had a kid, thought he was gay .........
  18. big audio
    18. Posted by big audio Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:57 pm EST

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    same goes for Bobby Nystrom ........
  19. big audio
    19. Posted by big audio Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:58 pm EST

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    next you'll be telling me that Denny Potvin has a kid too .............
  20. yareekaim
    20. Posted by yareekaim Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:59 pm EST

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    I'm not sure we as fans can do anything about it. As parents or teammates, sure, but it sounds like the problem stems from the locker room.
  21. Matt
    21. Posted by Matt Tue Nov 03, 2009 12:59 pm EST

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    Ha. Some of this comments remind me why I don't come around these parts often. Ridiculous.
  22. monkgotgroove
    22. Posted by monkgotgroove Tue Nov 03, 2009 1:00 pm EST

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    By creating an air of acceptance wihtin a team, allowing people to be who they are & to be proud of who they are, you'll create a feeling of security for these people & you'll create a more loyal & bonded team that will stick up for each other - so I would think it would make sense from an owner's, coach's, and player's perspective to support their teammates & players, allowing them to be being exactly who they are - if it starts there, the fans & media will follow.
    Easier said than done, and I'm not so sure I would be the first in the locker room to stand up and say I was gay.
  23. Matt S
    23. Posted by Matt S Tue Nov 03, 2009 1:01 pm EST

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    "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me." Seems like everyone forgets that after the age of 4. Is it freedom of speech or isn't it?
  24. monkgotgroove
    24. Posted by monkgotgroove Tue Nov 03, 2009 1:05 pm EST

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    Wow, Jbird, stop being a moron & maybe in a couple of generations we won't have people like you around... dare to dream.
    I sincerely hope you haven't reproduced, but a'las I'm afraid based upon your comments of placing human worth upon reproduction skills that you must have.
  25. mcnultysrevenge
    25. Posted by mcnultysrevenge Tue Nov 03, 2009 1:05 pm EST

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    I'm nominating #17 for "Comment of the Day". Seriously, who knew people like this still existed.

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